Let's take a look at experience to explore this question. And by experience, I mean your actual day-to-day, living-your-life experience.
When you look at why you do the things you do, ultimately it is to have an experience.
- Riding a rollercoaster
- Giving a present
- Going in for your first kiss
- Volunteering at a food-bank
When I saw "It" with my family, the experience of the hackles on the back of my neck at full attention, goosebumps over my entire body, the lightness of my internal organs defying gravity... the entire experience was something my son and I reveled in. The experience of being that terrified (in a controlled environment) was awesome.
If you look at why you do things, even the things you don't want to do that you do anyway, it is ultimately in pursuit of a particular experience.
Now, if you took the extraordinary experiences, those that you try to reach again and again, can you identify the intention that was being fulfilled in that moment?
I am most inspired, lit up and fulfilled when I am profoundly connected to another human being. Or when I am around other human beings who are profoundly connected. "Connected to what?" you may ask...
- When I am present to my love for my husband of 28 years.
- When my colleague is in touch with and expressing their life's passion.
- When my child is aware of their own brilliance and unique expression.
- When my other child is proud of what they have just accomplished.
- When I am watching someone in the zone - performing at their peak at what they love to do.
What if I set up my life so that what I do, the actions I take, the thoughts that arise, are all aligned with People being profoundly connected. If my life were set up that way, my experience - all the time - would either be inspired and fulfilled or in pursuit of that which inspires and fulfills me. Sounds cool, life affirming and worthy. Lives, people's lives, especially MY life isn't set up so that it is aligned with People being profoundly connected.
As I set out to align my life with that intention, that calling, what I must deal with first is everything that is not aligned. This is non-trivial. A lot of the structures in my house are designed so that I can check out (Hint: not connected).
I'm taking the next 3 months to have my life be aligned with my calling: People are profoundly connected.